The thing about patriarchy is that individual men, gay and straight, are often really wonderful people who you love deeply, but they have internalized some really poisonous shit. So every once in a while they say or do something that really shakes you because you’re no longer totally certain they see you as a human being, and you feel totally disempowered to explain that to them.

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Forever reblog.

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I will never not reblog this even if I JUST did. (via subtletysmyweakness)

this is the same way i feel about having white friends because this shit happen and it just freaks me and out I LOVE YA’LL AND I KNOW IT’S INTERNALIZED AND IT SLIPS OUT but ugh :(

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A thoughtful, sensitive male Wisconsin legislator has proclaimed that he is against divorce under all circumstances — even spousal abuse. And he’s got a message to all those ladies out there getting the shit beaten out of them by their husbands: remember the good times, back before things took an abusive turn, and maybe you’ll fall in love again. There, isn’t that better? Now, chin up, and go back out into that awful marriage of yours like a champ.

The obtuse anti divorce champion is Republican Don Pridemore. And this isn’t the first time the Heartless Cheesehead has acted in a manner most unbecoming.

Remember earlier this month when another Wisconsin lawmaker thoughtfully suggested that maybe single parenthood should be considered a factor that may be indicative of child abuse? Pridemore was a co-sponsor of the bill that would’ve made it a crime for a person to dare try to raise a child on their own outside of the pillowy soft Magic Zone of marriage. But what about women who are being abused by their husbands? Shouldn’t they have the option to extract themselves from an unhealthy situation? Nope, says Pridemore. And he’s got some expert abused spouse marital advice as well: “If they can refind those reasons and get back to why they got married in the first place it might help.”

So, the solution to divorce and spousal abuse is just remembering why you love your abuser? Did he learn about love, relationships, and psychology from tragic early country songs?



glimpse submitted:

I had just begun my third year of college, transferring to a new university, and I found a lump in my throat. It was visible when I spoke (like an adam’s apple), and it made it hard to swallow. When I went to my local hospital they had me do an ultrasound, four nasal scopes…